We are settling in. We are missing one another. Allison and Lindsay are doing fine but they miss their Dad in subtle and not-so-subtle ways.

“Daddy and I were stuck like glue,” Allison cried yesterday. “Now I am stuck with you.”

I know what she means.

I have made a point of spending time with them. Doing things. Playing. Branching out. We’ve swam. Had playdates. Eaten ice cream. Had rounds of mini-golf. Ridden go-karts for the first time.  Gone to museums. Seen movies. Climbed on the playground. Been to camp. Been to mass. Run through the sprinklers.  Kept a little garden. It’s been good. We’ve needed it.


Trip to the Strong National Museum of Play

Trip to the Strong National Museum of Play

Tomatoes from our little garden

Tomatoes from our little garden

We’ve also been calling Chris in California a lot.  About everything and nothing.  We are keeping him in the loop about the little details because those are the things that really matter.

Chris also is feeling more settled in California. He rented an apartment and moved in. We all feel better knowing that he has a place to call “home.” A familiar place.  It is small but it is in a nice, convenient neighborhood and it will do just fine for one person. But let me tell you, home doesn’t come cheap in California! WOW.  The living space of this apartment is HALF the size of our living room and the cost is only slightly less than our mortgage. And we live in a 2200 sq. ft. house on 0.7 acre in one of the top 100 school districts in the country. Turns out that San Carlos is one of the most expensive zip codes in AmericaHow DO people afford to live in California?

kitchen and living area

Kitchen and living area

Other end of living area

Other end of living area



It is what it is and we committed to seeing it through for one year. We are grateful that Chris is well-employed and able to show off his skills and gain some new ones in his new position.  We will make it work.   That doesn’t mean that I won’t mutter a little here and there, though.

How do you settle into a new situation?  Have you lived in a small apartment or in a very expensive area (or both)?   Ever lived in CA? Any comments on these things or anything else related to this blog post would be welcomed. I’d love to hear from you!


6 thoughts on “Settling

    • I have seen pictures! It was super-cute! 🙂 How big is your townhouse? Are costs more reasonable in NJ? I understand that our housing costs are very reasonable here but the housing costs in CA are bordering on the insane, especially for a family.

  1. Condo is only 800 sq feet but feels huge compared to what I have. NJ is better than NY but still expensive compared to home. We are looking at houses in PA for next year and that’s not cheap either – but think it’s all relative honestly depending on one’s pay. However, it doesn’t make it easy- we are looking at 3/4 bedroom houses and they are much smaller than in Roch, even at a higher price. 😦

    • You’ll make a good decision, I am sure. 🙂 It’s got to be nerve racking, though.

      I watched “House Hunters” on HGTV and 1500 sq. ft. houses in Silicon Valley were going for $675,000. Some of these were townhouses. Astounding.

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